When our relationship feels stuck, we are struggling with conflict or concerned about growing disconnection, couples therapy offers an opportunity to transform and rejuvenate the relationship.
I work with couples to enable you to address the challenges facing you and support you to build a strong, long-lasting relationship. Face-to-face or online sessions are typically held weekly and reduce to fortnightly or monthly over time.
“If you focus on yourself, and attempt to change your own responses, things in your marriage will begin to change. This is a leap of faith. If you don't believe it, keep trying to change your partner. The harder you try, the more they will stay the same and the more frustrated and angry you will both become.”
Parenting problems
Money pressures
Loss or bereavement
Extended family politics
Premarital anxiety
Career changes e.g. redundancy, retirement
Mental health issues and illness
Sex & Intimacy
Cultural or religious differences
Other significant life changes or disruptions
My therapeutic approach is grounded in over 50 years of Bowen family systems research, and I particularly draw upon the Bowen systems based Relationship Renewal model developed by my New York colleague David Olsen.
The focus of couples therapy is on the relationship between you. I will bring into focus the relationship dynamics you are co-creating together and support you both to identify how to refine and adjust your role in the process so that you can thrive together.
All couples struggle with one central task: how to be both an individual and connect meaningfully together. I will work with you to mature both sides of this dialectical tension. Enhancing your experience of intimacy, closeness and belonging with your partner while also developing your connection with your distinct sense of self.
Tension and anxiety surround us, but we are typically unaware of how much such stress shapes and creates the challenges we face in our relationships. Our work will grow your self-awareness and enhance your ability to self-soothe and self-regulate.
Our early years experiences inform our expectations of committed relationships and shape how we engage in these adult relationships. Our work will explore how the past is re-emerging in the present and how to reorientate your connection to develop the relationship you desire.
Initial free phone consultation (20 mins) – FREE
Couple therapy sessions (55 mins) - £250
Initially you will have 2 assessment sessions to explore what has brought you to therapy and identify the focus of the work. This will enable us to know when therapy has reached its goal and conclusion.
Generally sessions start weekly and then move to fortnightly or monthly. Both you and your partner are expected to attend each session.
Book a FREE 20 minute zoom consultation.
This zoom call will give both of you the chance to discuss your hopes and aims for couple therapy, answer any questions you have and discuss practical details.
